Staying positive with cancer is not easy. I wanted to this article because I had a client of mine of was recently diagnosed with breast cancer. She had an operation to have a cancerous tumor removed. After the operation, the client then sat with the specialist and was told some interesting facts.
The Interview after Surgery
The doctor informed my client that, fortunately, the cancer had not spread further. They then discussed treatment options, recommending chemotherapy as a precaution due to the potential presence of cancerous stem cells. The doctor illustrated this with a graph on a whiteboard.
Alive in 10 years (on average):
- 95% chance – with Chemotherapy & Radiation & Hormone Replacement
- 90% chance – with Radiation therapy & Hormone Replacement
- 88% chance – with Hormone Replacement Therapy
- 85% chance – without Treatment
The doctor explained that cancer is unpredictable. Some follow all treatments and it returns, while others do nothing and it doesn’t return.
Options
So what I’m saying to you here and what my client thought also, was that you could go down the chemotherapy and radiation therapy line and have the cancer come back. Or you could not go down that line and live a perfectly healthy life thereafter. So, it is really up to you. I suggest that you look at all the options, not just the poisonous options of chemo and radiation therapy but also the holistic options as well. Now I’m no doctor but healthier holistic options do sound better, don’t you think?
Let’s now move onto staying positive during treatment of cancer. It’s important to say that you don’t always have to be positive. Allowing yourself to grieve and allowing yourself time to vent your anger, frustration, and fears with a good friend is just as important as staying positive. But it simply feels better to find the glass half full rather than half empty. Plus, good positive feelings release feel-good chemicals into the blood stream which do promote better health. Anyone facing cancer certainly deserves as much happiness as possible. We all know how our mood can change when we answer the phone or a friend or family member drops in, so let’s begin with relationships.
Build your support network
You are probably already thinking of those friends and family members who bring a smile to your face simply by being present. When you are feeling the weight of the world on your shoulders, they walk in like a ray of sunshine and almost effortlessly lighten your load. These positive friends and family are there to support you when you need it. These guys will not back away when you want to talk about your deepest fears and they bring out the best in you, giving you a gentle push when you need it. They will inspire you to be courageous when you are feeling afraid and make difficult decisions less daunting. Remembering that it is OK to be afraid.
But steer clear of those folks that can brighten up a whole room by leaving it. I mean some people have a real case of stinking thinking and you want to stay away from this crew. Your attitude in these times is too important to have it dragged down by pessimistic numpties.
In addition to the positive people in your life, surrounding yourself with positive energy. For example: inspirational books, uplifting music, humorous films and TV series can add an extra touch of buoyancy to keep you afloat but also release those feel good healing chemicals into the blood stream as you face the Dark Side known as a cancer treatment. Remember to laugh until the tears flow and try and do this on a daily basis.
Change your Mind
It is not what you are doing, or who you are with, or where you are, or the concerns that you have which makes you happy or unhappy. It is the way your mind is processing it that does.
“There is nothing good or bad, but our thinking makes it so” William Shakespeare
Cognitive reframing is changing the way you think about something. The situation does not change, but you do. Inlay terms, it means finding a way of shifting your perspective so that instead of seeing the glass half empty, you can see the glass half full. An example or two might help explain this:
- If you are scheduled to have say 10 treatments. You can whine and pity yourself about how you still must face 5 more sessions. Or instead, you can say I am now on the home stretch.
- Or, instead of grieving the loss of hair, you can tease those around you that unlike them, you do not need to shave or get a haircut.
Remove Stress from your Life
Recent estimates indicate that as many as 90% of all the people seeking medical care are doing so because of stress related disorders. More and more researchers are establishing links between physical illnesses and extreme emotional conditions and reactions.
Our immune system cannot detect early tumour cells and discard them, when we are fighting an emergency elsewhere requiring all our energy. Cancer cells can reproduce rapidly when the immune system is shut down in response to constant stress. Quite simply, the more we negatively react to the stressors in our lives, the more frequently we get sick, and the effects of a compromised immune system show up in many forms.
Read a more about Stress Management
Mantra & Affirmations
We might joke about people “chanting,” but self-affirmation is one method of coping when an illness threatens our very integrity. Some people with cancer have found that they can help turn their negative thoughts in a positive direction by repeating a mantra or phrase. You may want to learn how to use a mantra meditation for stress relief. Similarly, verbal affirmations can reprogram your subconscious mind. There are also visualization techniques that work a treat. Read more about How to Use Positive Affirmations , Create Your Positive Mindset & The Power of Meditation
What do you love to do?
Staying positive with cancer amidst the flurry of diagnosis second opinions, and treatments, is tough and it is easy to forget that you actually have a life. Take a moment to close your eyes and step back from the world of cancer, and dream of things you would enjoy doing. Your thoughts may surprise you. If you’re having difficulty picturing yourself feeling passionate about something again, think back over the last several years of your life. What were the highlights and what truly brought you happiness?
Now think of things you have never done but at some point, in your life have thought you would enjoy. What’s wrong with pursuing a new passion now? Ask a close friend what kind of passion or hobby they believe would bring you pleasure. Make a list then have a go.
Find the Silver Lining
In looking for silver linings, consider the ways that you have grown since your diagnosis. Research is now telling us that many cancer survivors experience “posttraumatic growth.” For example, cancer survivors often develop a greater sense of compassion for others, a greater appreciation for life, and more. Can you think of ways that you have become a better person because of your diagnosis?
Show Compassion
Being too tired to walk, run, cycle, rock climb, surf, swim, or dance because of cancer may be a special blessing. After all, these activities, though honorable and commendable, are not likely to touch the heart of that quiet, bald woman who self-consciously and tearfully walks down the supermarket aisle nearby. A simple touch, a beautiful smile, or a gentle hug can leave her to continue on her way with her chin just a little higher. Just like a diamond, things such as these, that seem so small, may shine in the heart of another facing this disease for a long time to come.
Feel free to read: Create Your Positive Mindset , Detachment , Breath and Ice Therapy , Right or Wrong Decisions , The Power of Meditation , How to Use Positive Affirmations , The Stages of Change , Becoming Offended , Stop Seeking Approval , Responsibility , The All Mighty Powerful Ego , Lead & Promote Change & Better Communication
Staying positive with cancer is not easy but hopefully you can use the tips above to lift your mood a tad. As we know, healthy thoughts help health the body so do what you can to lift your spirits.
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